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Ask for what you need in the words they recognize

Most accommodation requests fail on phrasing, not on merit. You describe the problem the way you experience it; the employer's process is built to read functional limitations tied to job performance. This tool translates one into the other — and builds you a regulation plan for the days the accommodations aren't enough.

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01

Your situation

This changes which accommodations are even available to you. Environmental requests mean nothing to a remote-first employer; scheduling and equipment mean everything.

Where you work
Is remote work standard where you work?
Roughly how many people work there?
How much do you want to disclose?
02

What's actually in the way

Pick what's true. Each one you check adds a functional limitation to your request, written the way an employer's process reads it. You do not have to check many — three specific barriers land harder than twelve vague ones.

03

What you're asking for

These are suggested from what you checked above. Uncheck anything you don't want. Each is phrased as barrier-then-proposal, which keeps the conversation open if your employer counter-offers instead of closing it on a single request.

Check some barriers above and your options will appear here.

04

Your regulation plan

Accommodations reduce load. They don't eliminate it, and some days will go sideways anyway. This is your plan for those days — three zones, and what each one needs. This part is yours. It doesn't go to your employer.

Steady

Working. Load is inside your range and staying there.

Strained

Still functioning, at a cost you'll pay later. This is the zone that gets missed, because from outside it still looks like working.

Stopped

Past the point where pushing works. Continuing here costs more than stopping does.

05

Keep the dates

There's no fixed deadline for an employer to respond, but unexplained delay can itself be a failure to accommodate. This table is the most valuable thing here if anything goes wrong — and the thing people start too late.

What happenedDateWho / notes

Start at askjan.org — free, federally funded, searchable by limitation rather than diagnosis, and nothing you look up is disclosed to anyone. For the law behind this tool, read Workplace Accommodations for Autistic and ADHD Adults. To map the sensory side first, take the Sensory Profile Assessment or work through the AuDHD Sensory Workbook.

This tool is educational and does not constitute medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Nothing here creates a therapist–client or attorney–client relationship. Employment law varies by state and changes; verify current requirements for your jurisdiction. If you are in crisis, call or text 988, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room.

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