Attraction isn't one thing. Sexual, romantic, sensual, aesthetic, and emotional attraction are separate systems — any of them can be present, absent, or conditional independently of the others. This tool helps you map your own landscape.
Nothing here is scored, and nothing is saved. Your answers stay in this browser tab and disappear when you close it. Copy your map before you go if you want to keep it.
Before you start: here's what each type means. These are working definitions, not clinical categories.
Sexual attraction
Wanting to have sex with someone. The pull toward physical intimacy specifically. This is the one most people mean when they say "attraction" — and the one that's absent or minimal in asexual people.
Romantic attraction
Wanting emotional closeness, partnership, and the particular intimacy of a romantic relationship — without that necessarily including sex. Asexual people often experience this fully. Aromantic people don't.
Sensual attraction
Wanting non-sexual physical closeness — hugging, cuddling, physical comfort. Separate from both sexual and romantic attraction. Some people have a lot of this and very little of the others.
Aesthetic attraction
Finding someone beautiful or visually compelling — the way you might find a painting beautiful — without wanting anything from them. Appreciation without desire.
Emotional / intellectual attraction
Being drawn to someone's mind, their way of thinking, their inner world. Wanting to know them deeply. Sometimes called "sapiosexual" when it's the primary driver, though that term has its own debates.
Your attraction map
Your map builds here as you answer. Each bar shows how much of each attraction type you're describing.
This is a picture of what you've described — not a diagnosis, not a label. Use it as a starting point.