®The Orbital Dynamics of Gender & Attraction
You are not a fixed point. You're a body in motion, held in orbit by several fields at once — identity, expression, body, desire. Each exerts its own gravitas, and they don't all pull the same way. This is a quiet place to feel where those forces actually take you.
Before you launch
Gender isn't one dial — it's a system of orbits, and they don't have to share a center. Over seven fields you'll feel out the gravity acting on you. Move slowly. Notice where you're actually pulled, not where you think you're supposed to sit.
- Drag each slider to set the strength of a pull — or tab to it and use the arrow keys.
- Every field has a short note and a link to deeper resources.
- Your placements are saved only in this browser. Nothing here is a diagnosis.
- Not sure yet? "Questioning" is a valid place to sit — you can leave any field unlabelled.
This explorer is a companion to the full Gender Quiz. Your anonymised placements may contribute to a long-term study of how people describe themselves over time — no name, no contact, no way back to you.
What the seven dimensions are
Most gender questionnaires ask one question in several costumes, which is why they tend to hand back an answer you already suspected. This tool separates the question into dimensions that move independently, because in most people they do.
Gender identity
The internal sense of what you are, held whether or not anyone else ever confirms it. Identity is the dimension people usually mean when they say gender, and it is also the one least available to observation, since nobody can watch it from outside. It does not require certainty to be real, and it does not require a name.
Gender expression
What you put on the outside: clothing, voice, gait, hair, how much space you take. Expression is read by other people constantly and is the dimension most shaped by what is safe where you are. Someone whose expression sits far from their identity is not confused, and is often calculating accurately.
Social gender
How others perceive you and interact with you, including name, pronouns, and which rooms you are sorted into. This dimension carries the most friction, because it requires other people to move, and it is frequently the last to change even when everything else has already settled.
Body and sex
Your relationship to your physical characteristics, which can run anywhere from indifference to urgency. Distress here is what most clinical literature centres, but it is one dimension among seven, and plenty of people carry a clear identity with very little body pull in either direction.
Sexual orientation
Who you are sexually attracted to, at what intensity, and how often. This dimension has its own gravity and does not take instruction from the others, which is why it moves independently of identity rather than following from it.
Romantic orientation
Who you want closeness, partnership, and attachment with. It frequently points somewhere other than sexual orientation points, and the fact that the two can diverge is ordinary rather than a contradiction to be resolved.
Time
Where each of the dimensions above sat five years ago, and whether it has drifted. Movement is not evidence that a current position is false. A reading that has held steady for a decade and a reading that changed last spring are both readings.
Questioning is a position, not a waiting room
Leaving a dimension unlabelled is a legitimate result, not an incomplete one. The pressure to produce a settled word usually comes from outside, from systems that need a category before they will proceed, and that pressure has a way of getting internalized as a deadline. There is no deadline here. Nothing on this page asks you to commit, and nothing is transmitted anywhere when you decline to.
If you sit with a dimension unlabelled for a long time and it stays comfortable, that is information about you rather than an absence of information.
Why the orbits do not share a centre
The reason this is built as orbits rather than a single scale is that a single scale forces the dimensions into agreement they do not have. Someone can hold a firm identity, an expression tuned for safety rather than for truth, low body pull, and attraction that points somewhere unrelated to any of it. On a one-dimensional instrument that person reads as inconsistent. They are not inconsistent. They are being measured by an instrument with too few axes.
Common questions
Is the Gender Lab a clinical assessment?
No. The Gender Lab is an educational self-reflection tool, not a clinical assessment. It does not produce a diagnosis and does not create a therapist–client relationship. For clinical evaluation, consult a qualified gender-affirming provider.
Is my data stored or shared?
Your placements are saved only in your browser's local storage and are never transmitted to any server. Nothing leaves this page unless you choose to copy or share your chart yourself.
What are the seven dimensions of gender explored here?
The seven dimensions are: gender identity (internal sense of self), gender expression (how you present externally), social gender (how others perceive and interact with you), body/sex (relationship to physical characteristics), sexual orientation (who you are sexually attracted to), romantic orientation (who you are romantically attracted to), and time (how these shift over time).
How is this different from the Gender Self-Report (GSR)?
The Gender Self-Report (GSR) is a validated clinical instrument developed over twelve years with autistic and transgender communities. The Gender Lab covers similar conceptual ground informally — it helps you find language for your experience but does not score you and is not a substitute for the GSR or any validated measure.
Can I use this tool if I am questioning my gender?
Yes. The tool is designed for anyone exploring gender, including people who are questioning. Every dimension can be left unlabelled — "questioning" and "not sure yet" are valid placements, not gaps to fill.
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Educational use only — not a clinical assessment. Use of this tool does not create a therapist–client relationship, and Love Psychotherapy, LLC makes no recommendations regarding gender-affirming care.
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