®Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT · Buddhist Chaplain · They/Them
Clinical Writing
On neurodivergence, family estrangement, the intersection of identity and mental health, and the questions that don't resolve cleanly — by a queer, neurodivergent LMFT.
104 posts
Why You Lose People When You Stop Masking: The Arrangement Nobody Named
Autistic people routinely lose relationships after unmasking. Masking is unpaid labor performed for someone else's benefit, and when it stops, the people who profited from it experience the boundary as harm.
Autistic Meltdown: What It Actually Is, and What Actually Helps
An autistic meltdown is an involuntary neurological response to accumulated load — not a tantrum, not manipulation, not a choice. What it is, how it differs from shutdown, inertia, and panic, and what actually helps.
Asking Without Overexplaining: Neurodivergent Accommodations
Most accommodation guidance assumes you can already name what you need. A neurodivergent guide to barriers, disclosure levels, and asking — with a free worksheet.
When Being Right Isn't Enough: Justice Sensitivity, Hyper-Empathy, and the Family That Won't Change Its Mind
Autistic justice sensitivity and hyper-empathy make an unresolved wrong physically unbearable — and monotropism makes it impossible to look away. A clinical essay on the loop of trying to argue someone you love into seeing it, and what to do instead.
Compulsory Sexuality: The Assumption That Makes Asexuality Look Like a Problem
Asexuality is not intrinsically distressing. It becomes distressing inside a system that treats sexual desire as universal, healthy, and obligatory — and treats its absence as evidence of damage.
Ace in the Polycule: Non-Monogamy That Isn't Built on Allosexual Assumptions
Most writing on ethical non-monogamy quietly assumes everyone involved wants sex. For mixed ace/allo partnerships, opening up can be a genuine structural solution or a slow coercion — and the difference is visible early.
Is My Asexuality Trauma? Why the Question Is Wrong in Both Directions
The most common question asexual clients bring to therapy, and the one where clinicians fail in two opposite directions — pathologizing an orientation, or refusing to look at a trauma response because looking feels unaffirming.
Autistic and Asexual: When Your Orientation Gets Filed as a Symptom
Autistic people are overrepresented on the asexual spectrum. Too often that overlap is read as evidence that the asexuality isn't real — a symptom of autism rather than an orientation. The logic behind that reading does not hold.
Four Ways to Not Want Sex: Asexuality, Low Desire, Medication, and Aversion
Asexuality, hypoactive desire, medication-induced dysfunction, and trauma-related aversion all present as not wanting sex. They are four different formulations with four different implications, and the distress criterion does most of the work.
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