®Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT · Buddhist Chaplain · They/Them
Clinical Writing
On neurodivergence, family estrangement, the intersection of identity and mental health, and the questions that don't resolve cleanly — by a queer, neurodivergent LMFT.
90 posts
The AuDHD Paradox: When Your Brain Argues With Itself
Autism wants routine, completion, and sameness. ADHD wants novelty, interruption, and the next thing. When both live in the same nervous system, the result isn't a compromise — it's a civil war.
The Three-Part Test, Fully Mapped: Emotion Families and the Holding Protocol
A deeper map of the emotion families the three-part test applies to, and a concrete protocol for holding a feeling without executing the urge attached to it.
The Double Empathy Problem: Why Cross-Neurotype Misunderstanding Is Nobody's Fault
Damian Milton's 2012 reframe of autism and social difficulty — and why the empathy gap between autistic and non-autistic people runs in both directions.
Meeting the Metamour: The Structural Checklist and Repair Protocol
A practical checklist for structuring the first meeting, and a repair protocol for when the meeting goes badly or gets avoided for too long.
Anxious Attachment, or Autistic Nervous System? Why the Question Matters
A schedule change produces tears, shutdown, and what looks like fear of abandonment. But is it anxious attachment — or a nervous system organized around predictability rather than relational safety? The differential changes everything about what actually helps.
When the Pile-On Is the Point: Recognizing a Coordinated Smear Campaign
A smear campaign isn't just one person saying bad things about you. It's a coordinated architecture — and the coordination itself is the diagnostic clue most targets miss.
What to Actually Expect on Hormone Therapy: A Guide for Transfeminine, Transmasculine, and Gender-Expansive Clients
The physical mechanics of gender-affirming HRT are well documented. What gets less attention is the emotional experience of actually living through a process that is genuinely individual, often nonlinear, and not obligated to follow anyone else's map.
Story Swapping: The AuDHD Habit That Sounds Like Interruption and Means the Opposite
Why answering a story with your own adjacent story is a compliment in one conversational dialect and an interruption in another.
There Are No Bad Emotions — Just the Three-Part Test
A simple three-part test for treating any uncomfortable emotion as information instead of a problem.
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